Chicago BDSM Dictionary

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Dictionary of common BDSM and Fetish Terms

Abrasion

Erotic stimulation of the skin’s surface with abrasive materials such as sandpaper, fingernails and other items rough to the skin.

Age Regression Play

Pretending to be younger than you are.

Anal Sex

The insertion of a toy or body part into the anus as a form of stimulation.

Aphrodisiacs

Herbal or nutritional supplement believed to enhance the sex drive.

Asphyxiation

Breath play. Having air supply controlled or cut off.

Bastinado

Whipping or beating the soles of the feet.

Bath / Shower –
Sharing / having sex in the bath or shower.

Bathroom Use Control

Having to get permission from a Dominant before using the bathroom.

Begging

A form of submission in which a submissive asks or pleads to their Dominant.

Behavior Modification

Erotic punishment/training as a way of changing a behavior.

Belt/Strap –
A typically leather implement used to administer corporal punishment (i.e. spanking).

Biting

Using the teeth as a form of stimulation

Blindfolds

A tool used for sensory deprivation in which the submissive’s vision is impaired by the Dominant using a piece of cloth, leather, etc. over their eyes.

Body Bags

A form of containment within a full-size, closed fabric or leather device used traditionally to transport dead bodies.

Boxing / Closeting

Being contained within a box or cupboard.

Branding

Using a heated implement to burn a mark into a submissive’s skin as a form of Dominance.

Breast Bondage

Bondage which involves wrapping or tying of the breasts using rope, leather straps, etc..

Breast Impact Play

Using a tool or the hand to inflict pain on the breasts and nipples known as Impact play on the breasts.

Breast Torture

Pain inflicted on the breasts and nipples.

Butt Plugs

Much like a dildo but pear-shaped with a flared base to hold the toy in the anal cavity. They come in a variety of sizes and some may vibrate. Sometimes used discreetly under clothing to be worn in public by the submissive at the orders of a Dominant.

Caging

Containing a submissive in a locked or unlocked space such as a dog crate, dog cage, jail cell, etc.

Caning

The use of thin wooden, reed, fiberglass, or metal implements (canes) as a form of corporal punishment.

Captures

Aggressive bondage used to initiate a scene.

Cattle Prod

An electric shock device typically used for provoking movement from cows and other livestock but used in BDSM as a form of electrical play or punishment.

Chains (Bondage)

A length of metal loops used to either restrict a submissive in bondage or worn for aesthetic or ornamental reasons.

Chastity Belts

Tools used to bind, capture, control or otherwise restrict a submissive’s genitals.

Chastity Training

Also known as erotic sexual denial or orgasm denial / orgasm control, chastity training is a sexual practice or sex play in which a person is kept in a heightened state of sexual arousal for an extended length of time without orgasm and can be considered a formal of sexual bondage. One form is the reduction or deprivation of all genital stimulation. To ensure a complete absence of genital stimulation, a chastity device may be used as a physical barrier to genital touch or full erection.

Choking

Pressure on the neck from a hand, belt or other tool.

Cigarette Play

Any incorporation of cigarettes into a session, including burning with cigarettes, smoking cigarettes, etc.

Clingfilm

Being wrapped in clingfilm (also known as plastic wrap or saran wrap) as a method of bondage.

Clothespins

Wooden or plastic clips used to inflict pain or general sensation to the submissive’s body on various parts such as nipples, scrotum, etc.

Clothes (As Bondage Tools)

Being restrained using scarves, ties, etc.

Clothing choice

Being told what to wear by your Dominant.

Cock Rings

A band worn around the base of the penis to slow down the flow of blood into or out of the penile tissue. A cock ring can be used to strengthen an erection.

Collar

A device of any material worn by a person around the neck to indicate their submissive or slave status in a BDSM relationship.

Corsets

A tightly fitting undergarment extending from below the chest to the hips, worn to shape the figure.

Crawling

Movement across a floor or other surface using ones hands and knees, usually done by the submissive at the request of a Dominant.

Crucifixion

Bondage incorporating a stationary cross. The submissive’s arms and legs are tied, not nailed.

Cuffs (Bondage)

Metal, leather, or other material used to wrap around the wrists and/or ankles to restrict or contain a submissive. Cuffs can also be worn for aesthetic appeal.

Cuffs (Wearing)

Wearing handcuffs or wrist cuffs for aesthetic appeal.

Cunnilingus (Giving or Receiving)

Oral sex onto a woman.

Cyber Domination

Being given orders by email or text.

Deep Throating

Oral in which the penis is taken into the throat.

Deep Throating Toys

Performing oral sex on toys in which they are taken into the throat.

Doggy Position

Having sex in doggy position.

Double Penetration (With Multiple Partners)

Being penetrated in two orifices at once, by
multiple partners.

Double Penetration (With Toy)

Being penetrated in two orifices at once, by a partner and a
toy.

Drinking

Drinking urine.

Duct Tape

Bondage or gagging using duct tape.

Enemas (Cleansing)

Using an enema prior to anal sex.

Enemas (Punishment)

Being given an enema as for erotic pleasure.

Exhibitionism

Showing off your body or sexual abilities.

Eye Contact Restriction

Being ordered to avoid eye contact or lower your gaze.

Face Riding (Giving)

Giving oral to another woman while she kneels over your face.

Face Riding (Receiving)

Receiving oral while kneeling over a partner’s face.

Face Slapping

Being slapped in the face.

Fear

Being frightened.

Feathers

Feathers as an object / sensation.

Fellatio

Giving oral.

Fingering

Stimulation from fingers inserted into the vagina.

Fingering (Giving To Female)

Stimulating another woman’s vagina and clitoris with your
fingers.

Finger Sucking –
Sucking a partner’s fingers.

Fire Cups

Glass cups that create suction. Used for sensation play.

Fireplay

Play involving fire.

Fisting (Vaginal)

Insertion of most of the hand into the vagina.

Flogging

A flogger (soft or hard) used an impact play tool.

Fluid Bonded Sex

Sex without a condom, including internal ejaculation.

Following Orders

Being given orders.

Food (Eaten During Sex)

Eating food during sex.

Food (Sploshing)

Using food as part of play.

Food Choice

Having a partner decide what food you will eat.

Forced Exercise

Being ordered to exercise.

Forced Masturbation

Being ordered to masturbate, in person or remotely.

Forced Nudity (Private)

Being ordered to remove clothes while in a private setting.

Forced Nudity (Public)

Being ordered to remove clothes in public / semi

public
surroundings.

Forced To Watch

Watching a partner have sex with another woman, without being
permitted to join in.

Full Head Hoods

Wearing a hood over your head.

Gags

Ball gags, bit gags, cloth gags.

Gang Bang (Assisting)

Assisting a number of men to use another woman for sex.

Gang Bang (Main Recipient)

Being used by a number of men for sex.

Gas Masks

Wearing a gas mask as a method of bondage.

Genital Bondage

Bondage that incorporates the genitals.

Genital Impact Play

Impact play on the genitals.

Genital Torture

Pain inflicted on the genitals.

Given Away (Friend)

Being given away temporarily for sexual purposes to someone you
know.

Given Away (Stranger)

Being given away temporarily for sexual purposes to someone you
don’t know.

Glory Hole (Being Used As)

Giving oral while restrained or blindfolded to men of a
partner’s choosing.

Gloves

Gloves as an object. Rubber gloves. Leather gloves. Silk gloves.

Golden Showers

Being peed on.

Grooming Choices

Following directions about how to groom yourself, and what you may
do with your body.

Group Sex

Having sex as part of a larger group.

Gun Play

Play involving a gun.

Hair pulling

Having your hair pulled.

Hairbrushes

A hairbrush used as an impact play tool.

Hand Job (Giving)

Giving a handjob.

Hard Sex

Having hard / rough sex.

Harem

Being part of a harem of women in a community or household.

Harnesses

Wearing a harness of rope or leather.

Headphone/Earplugs

Having your sense of hearing restricted.

Horse

Straddling a bar as a form of crotch torture.

Hot Oils

Hot oil being dripped or brushed onto your skin.

Hot Wax

Having hot wax dripped onto your body.

Housework

Doing housework on request.

Humiliation (Private)

Being humiliated or degraded in a private setting.

Humiliation (Public)

Being humiliated or degraded in a public setting.

Ice (Exterior)

Being stimulated on the exterior of the body with an ice cube.

Ice (Inserted)

Having an ice cube inserted into your body.

Impact Play (Soft)

Softer impact play that tends more towards massage.

Impact Play (Hard)

Hard, painful impact play.

Incense / Aromatherapy

Burning incense or using aromatherapy oils during sex.

Injections

Being injected with saline or pierced with needles.

Interrogation

Interrogation role play scenarios.

Kicking

Being kicked in the genitals prior to sex.

Kitten Play

Pretending to be a kitten.

Kneeling

Kneeling on command.

Knife Play (Real)

Using the sharp part of a knife to cut your skin.

Knife Play (Simulated)

Using the sharp part of a knife to provide sensation play.

Labial Clip

Having clips applied to your labia.

Latex / Rubber / Leather

Wearing or feeling latex, leather or rubber.

Leashed

Wearing a leash or lead in private or in public.

Lecturing

Being told off.

Lead by Hair

Being lead around by your hair.

Legal Documents

Signing a contract to relinquish power or authority.

Lesbianism

Having sex with another woman of a partner’s choosing, for their
entertainment.

Lingerie

Wearing lingerie.

Long Term Restraint

Being restrained in some way for hours, overnight or for several days.

Mammary Sex

Having non

penetrative sex by contact between breasts and cock

Manual stimulation

Stimulation of the clitoris with fingers.

Masks

Wearing masks while having sex.

Massage (Giving)

Giving a massage.

Masturbation

Touching yourself.

Medical Play

Play involving medical procedures and equipment.

Menstrual Sex

Having sex while you are menstruating.

Menstrual Sex (Giving)

Having sex with another woman while she is menstruating.

Mental / Honor Bondage

Holding a position as though bound on command.

Missionary Position

Having sex in the missionary position.

Mummification

Being wrapped up as a form of bondage.

Naked / Clothed

Being naked while your partner is clothed.

Name Calling

Being called names and verbally abused.

Name Change

Answering to a different name.

Nipple Clamps

Having clamps applied to your nipples and weighted.

Nipple Play

Having your nipples stimulated.

Orgasm Control

Being trained to orgasm on command.

Orgasm Denial

Having to gain permission before having an orgasm.

Other Outdoor Activities

Taking part in bondage or other activities outdoors.

Outdoor Sex

Having sex outdoors.

Paddle

A paddle as an impact play took.

Padlocks

Bondage controlled by a lock and key.

Performing (Private)

Dancing / singing privately for me.

Performing (Public)

Dancing / singing in public on request.

Physical Examinations

Medical play examination.

Pictures

Having pictures taken during sex or play. Exchanging pictures.

Pinching

Having skin pinched or twisted.

Pony Play

Pretending to be a pony or other pet animal.

Pornography

Watching pornography together.

Prison Scenes

Pretending to be a prisoner.

Prostitution

Pretending to be a prostitute. Being paid for sex on demand.

Protocols

Learning and obeying protocols regarding your behaviour.

Public (Discreet)

Having discreet sex in public.

Public (Overt)

Having sex in public with the objective of being seen. Includes dogging.

Public Bondage

Wearing bondage equipment under clothing in public.

Punching

Being punched in the torso or abdomen.

Punishment Scene

Role playing a punishment scene.

Rape Fantasy

Role playing a rape scenario.

Religious Scenes

Scenes involving a religious context.

Riding Crops

A riding crop as an impact play tool.

Ripping / Cutting Clothes

The ripping away or cutting away of clothes.

Rope

Bondage using rope.

Rope (Intricate)

Intricate bondage, mostly for ornamentation.

Rope (Wearing)

Wearing rope over clothes in front of others.

Scarification

Being permanently or semi

permanently scarred.

Scratching

Being scratched with nails or another sharp object.

Sensory Deprivation

Being deprived of several senses at once.

Serving as Furniture / Artwork

Serving as an item of furniture or decoration on request.

Serving Others

Serving and obeying orders of others (in a non

sexual context) on request.

Servitude

Following orders and serving by fetching drinks, cleaning, etc.

Sexual Denial

Being denied sex for a certain period of time.

Shaving

Being shaved, or ordered to shave yourself.

Silk Scarves

Silk scarves as a bondage tool.

Sixty

Nine –
Giving and receiving oral in the sixty

nine position.

Sleep Deprivation

Being denied sleep.

Sleeve Bondage

Having arms or legs bound tightly together.

Smoking

Smoking during sex. Smoking while kissing.

Spanking On All Fours

Being spanked while on all fours.

Spanking OTK

Being held over the knee and spanked.

Speculum

Having a speculum used on you.

Speech Restrictions

Being forbidden to use certain words, or to speak at all.

Spitting

Being spat on during sex.

Spoons

Having sex in a spooning position.

Spreader Bars

Use of spreader bars in bondage for arms or legs.

Standing

Having sex while standing or bending over.

Standing in Corner

Being made to stand in the corner facing the wall.

Stocks

Being restrained in a set of stocks.

Strait Jacket

Wearing a strait jacket.

Strap

on/Dildos

Being penetrated by a strap on or dildo.

Strappado Bondage

Bondage involving the arms bound together behind the back and raised.

Stress Bondage

Being bound or restrained in positions that are painful to hold.

Struggling

Struggling against bondage.

Suspension

Being suspended by rope off the ground, partially or fully.

Swallowing Semen

Swallowing after giving oral.

Swings

Play involving a sling or swing.

Symbolic Jewellery

Wearing symbolic jewellery, such as a collar or other.

Talking Dirty (Giving)

Talking Dirty

Talking Dirty (Receiving)

Being talked to.

TENS Unit

Being electrocuted by a TENS unit.

Threesome

Taking part in a threesome with two partners. MFF? MMF?

Thumb Cuffs

Finger bondage or restraint.

Tickling

Being tickled.

Total Power Exchange

Shifting all power in the relationship to me.

Toys Used Anally

Having toys used on you anally.

Toys Used Orally

Having toys used on you orally.

Toys Used Vaginally

Having toys used on you vaginally.

Triple Penetration (Dildo)

Being penetrated in all orifices at once by a partner and various
toys.

Triple Penetration (Multiple Partners)

Being penetrated in all orifices at once by several
partners.

Uniforms

As an object / fetish.

Unusual Dildos

Having unusually shaped toys used on you.

Vibrators

Having a vibrator used on you.

Video (Public)

Being recorded to show to others.

Video (Private)

Being recorded for private viewing by a partner.

Violet Wand

Being electrocuted by a violet wand.

Voyeurism

Watching other people have sex.

Webcam (Private)

Performing in front of a webcam for a partner.

Webcam (Public)

Performing on request in front of a webcam for others.

Whipping

Being whipped with a singletail whip.

Whipping Post

Being tied loosely or securely to a post and whipped.

Wrestling / Fighting

Wrestling or fighting as foreplay.

Wrist To Ankle

Bondage that connects the wrists to the ankles, or ankles to neck.

** This is a dictionary of terms associated with BDSM, Kink, and Fetish adult play, we do not provide all of the above referenced, it is simply a means of knowledge enrichment**